We look for answers in the wrong direction

We just need to look inside and tune in to within our mind. It is all there.

1:1s at work

The expression curve of certain feelings

Feelings tend to bubble up to the outer layers of the mind to be concretely defined at some point in time.
At times definition could be limited to acknowledgement of feelings to oneself - they need not be conveyed outside of the boundaries of one's mind. Not in all cases, not with certain kind of people who aren't as expressive or don't feel the need to be.

As feelings or emotions become more intense they tend to assume concrete existence in the mind and might be expressed in various ways. In word and/or action.

So expression in some way is guaranteed.

Some feelings however tend to become so intense that they begin to become intrinsic to a person's formation. They sink deeper in the mind, beyond reach of the intellect which can define, articulate and analyse them. They no longer wish themselves to be expressed and transcend the levels of intellectual control.

Probably such are never in the order of anything the human intellect or reason may hope to control.

Do they in the first place appear deep within the recesses of the mind, not sinking deeper but rising upwards on occasion to make their presence felt?

Love being the case in point.

Ways of conversation

Interaction between people often ends up being only partially efficient. Something like a force applied tangentially to a point so that it is not effective to its entire capacity.

Some people tend to have pre-defined questions about any topic and drive a conversation on the lines of their curiosity. They miss out on other information or insight the other party may have to offer. So focused are they upon prior thoughts and requirements out of a conversation that they literally filter out anything outside of the topic, override all conversation and try to push their will forward.

Some people are the opposite and let the other party drive the conversation - they choose to be only listeners (hearers?). While this could be deliberate as well as required at times e.g. when collecting feedback or pretending interest, when unintentional or done out of habit this fails to add any stimulation to a conversation. Might as well have been in an email? But even email can get interactive.

And there are those who seek as well as hear and also make interaction stimulating by their questions and responses. This definitely holds scope for surprise so both parties have to be attentive and careful. Requires some effort of the grey cells, have the almonds handy.

Thought, expression and perception

Some people don't express all of what they mean to say in words. And some don't say what they really mean.

y = x would be ideal where you didn't have to derive or interpret or use any perceptive faculties to understand what the other person might intend to convey. The listener's responsibility to ensure correct communication increases with m as less is spoken in the communication - and so a lot depends upon the capability of the listener. A reducing value of m, whether due to the speaker or listener, is probably a waste of time?

Thoughts not intended to be conveyed but which are perceived are not included in the present discussion!

Note in case the above didn't make sense: m stands for how steep the slope is, i.e. which axis the line of communication is more inclined towards.

जब तक मालिक झाँझ बजाए 
नाच नचनिया नाच बंदरिया |
रंग बेरंग तेरा क्या बिगाड़े 
पग ठहरे मिट्टी बन जावे |

Inspired during the Savai Gandharv Music Festival 2012

नाम से सम्मान मिले 
रूप धन से ही मान |
गुण धन कोई दाम न पावे 
गुनीजन क्यूँ पहचान ||

- पंडित कुमार गन्धर्वजी की बंदिश "अजब दुनिया जा रिया कहाँ है" से कुछ प्रेरणा.