Saturday, March 23, 2013

Ways of conversation

Interaction between people often ends up being only partially efficient. Something like a force applied tangentially to a point so that it is not effective to its entire capacity.

Some people tend to have pre-defined questions about any topic and drive a conversation on the lines of their curiosity. They miss out on other information or insight the other party may have to offer. So focused are they upon prior thoughts and requirements out of a conversation that they literally filter out anything outside of the topic, override all conversation and try to push their will forward.

Some people are the opposite and let the other party drive the conversation - they choose to be only listeners (hearers?). While this could be deliberate as well as required at times e.g. when collecting feedback or pretending interest, when unintentional or done out of habit this fails to add any stimulation to a conversation. Might as well have been in an email? But even email can get interactive.

And there are those who seek as well as hear and also make interaction stimulating by their questions and responses. This definitely holds scope for surprise so both parties have to be attentive and careful. Requires some effort of the grey cells, have the almonds handy.

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